Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Lighting Fires to Create Momentum

Over the past few weeks, I have noticed the number of daily readers on the blog has increased by over 300 percent. "Wow!" I thought to myself. That it some really great news. The more I thought about it, the more I wanted to extract a lesson from it all. What valuable nugget of wisdom could I impart to both myself, for future reference, and to others? Answer: Light more fires!

What does that mean? You ask.

Good question! For those in sales, it means talking to more people. For bloggers, it means writing more articles. For those trying to lose weight, it means being more active in the gym while also managing a balanced diet.

In short, lighting fires involves the increase of activity. While simple to understand, the lesson is powerful. By increasing our activity, we in turn create more results. These results can be understood as building blocks toward our goals. To put it another way, we can describe this increased activity and its related results as momentum.

Please know that in the beginning, it will take far more energy to get things going (with fewer results), but eventually it flips to the point that it will take far less energy to maintain and grow it (with greater results). The secret to success is consistently taking massive amounts of action each day. Eventually, with enough care and attention, the growing number of small flames will become a raging blaze.

“The rhythm of daily action aligned with your goals creates the momentum that separates dreamers from super-achievers.” ~ Unknown

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Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Manage Your Disappointments With These 6 Tips

Danica and Dakota are Disappointed and Mad

Disappointment often turns to frustration, frustration to resentment, resentment to anger, anger to rage, rage to indifference; never allow your disappointments to get to indifference. ~ Unknown

Have you ever been disappointed? If you're human, then my guess is that you have. It doesn't feel good, does it?

In today's article, I want to talk about a time where I was seriously disappointed and what I did as a result. My hope is that I will be able to share my feelings, reactions, and offer some ideas on how to deal with it when it happens to you. 

While I won't go into detail about the actual event, I will tell you that when it happened to me, I felt it very strongly. In fact, my disappointment ran side-by-side with anger. 

I recall the last event happening over the telephone where I learned of some very disheartening news. It definitely was not how I envisioned it would have happened. At first, I felt the sadness set in. My voice got quiet as I tried to respond to the caller. I could feel my body shrinking in the chair as the defeated feeling took over. I wanted to run and hide, but I also wanted the other party to know how I felt.  

In my mind, the issue could not be resolved. At best, all I could do was receive a replacement or an alternative solution, but it wasn't enough to take away the pain I was feeling. If I couldn't have what I wanted, I didn't want anything. Yeah, reading those words, it seems a bit childish, huh? In that moment, I felt raw emotion and I guess I resorted back to a younger version of myself.

Once I got off the phone, the dissatisfaction turned into anger. I wanted other people to feel my pain and know the depth of my frustration. No matter what I did, I could not change the news. All I could do was accept it.

Unfortunately, I didn't want to accept it. I wanted what I wanted when I wanted it, but that fact alone would do absolutely nothing to remedy my emotional sensitivity. In turn, I started pointing my virtual fingers at everyone else. "They did this to me!" I argued strongly. As a result, I wanted to hurt them back. I really felt a long list of passive aggressive thoughts run through my mind. "Oh, I'll never let them hurt me again! This will be the LAST time that ever happens to me." I forcibly stressed while pacing around my living room floor. 

Thinking back to how I felt, I imagine those thoughts are normal. When we feel pain, we find the source of our problem and blame them for hurting us. Then, having that established, we seek to resolve our pain by avoiding it any further. "You are the source of my pain? Good, you'll never get another chance to hurt me again." We say convincingly while folding our arms in front of us.

Now that I've had the time to calm down and let my rational brain (versus my primal brain) take control again, I am able to safely revisit the incident and share some lessons in the process. In the following section, I share a few tips on how to handle disappointment when it comes again. 

Embrace the Feeling

The next time you are faced with a strong emotion like disappointment or anger, I would recommend that you allow yourself to feel it completely. If you're mad, sad, hurt, or disappointed, seek to understand how it's affecting you. What physical sensations are you experiencing? Where is it located on or in your body? What do you feel like doing as a result? 

By understanding how you feel and the effect is has on your body, you are better able to manage it in the future.

Get It Out Of You

Once I understand what's going on with me, I then want to get it out. For me, this is aided by writing or journaling. For some, talking with a friend, relative, or another trusted resource helps to alleviate the overwhelming emotions that are flowing through us.

Decide How You Will Respond 

In the moment when I was experiencing the most pain, I decided to initially detach from the world. Instead of taking it out on others, which is what I wanted to do, I decided to deal with it in the safety of my home. I knew, even while I was still feeling the residual effects of the event, that I didn't want to do or say the wrong thing. The only way that I could maintain control was by removing myself from the equation. Even a day later, I was still trying to wrap my head around the whole thing.

Change the Emotional State  

Once I let the strong sensations run free, it's time to bring them back under control. I believe these strong emotions are tied to our primal brains where we lose the ability to think rationally and just act. In my case, it felt like the fight-or-flight response. 

Knowing that I don't want to do or say something that I would regret later, I excused myself and dealt with it on my own. Once I was ready to come out of that state, I started looking for ways to think happy thoughts. For me, it comes by watching comedians do stand-up, talking to excitable people, or increasing my physical activity. While it may take a few minutes, I'm able to forget my previous mood and adopt a much lighter state of being.

Figure Out the Lesson

By now, you should feel better. This could take a few hours or even a few days depending on how long you wallow in that space. My suggestion is that you don't let negative thoughts marinate for extended periods of time. Consider embracing the feeling just enough to capture and understand the emotional state that you're in.

After you've calmed down and let cooler heads prevail, take a moment to replay the events. What could you have done differently? What lessons will you take from this situation? What will you do next time a similar event arises? 

Whatever the lesson, make sure to capture it and game plan your response for the future.

Close the Loop

To help with the healing process, make sure to find closure. For me, this means going back to the offenders and talking it out. By now, you should be able to take ownership for your feelings and actions. Consider walking through your experience and be open about how it made you feel. Please understand that this is not a time to blame others. During this time, simply express how you felt and share your conclusions. Convey in a level-headed way what you plan to do differently next time, if appropriate.

By taking this step, parties can reconnect and strengthen relationships or at the very least set a plan for how everyone will proceed moving forward.

Additional Thoughts

While the previous steps are helpful in navigating disappointment, I would like to share a few miscellaneous thoughts.

Trouble Don't Last Always

Despite what you may be feeling at the time, know that it won't always be that way. Eventually, you will get over it. Yes, it feels intense, but remind yourself that it will be over soon. If you have to repeat that to yourself a couple of times just to remain in control, please do.

Seek To Understand

One of the things to consider when you're closing the loop on a situation is to try and understand the other party. Was it intentional? Many times, we tell ourselves that the offenders did something on purpose or we create a story that may not be true. Before you make your final decision on future actions, seek to understand what was going on in the other party's world. The truth could change everything, even your approach.

Stay In Control

No matter how you feel, stay in control. Remember, you are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. This means that you and you alone have the ability to temper your feelings and actions. While it may be easy to let go of your responsibilities and allow our primal brains to take over, know that you have the power to choose. It's OK to take a break or timeout. While the other party may not like it, express to them that you need some time alone to figure things out. Let them know that you will be back to discuss it at a later time. 

When you get done thinking, make sure you go back and close the loop.

It Will Happen Again

Despite our best effort to avoid it, we will be disappointed again. Knowing this fact means that we can be prepared to manage our strong emotions and have a game plan for how we choose to act both during and after the incident. 

Not only will you be disappointed, but you will also find yourself on the other side of the coin. When this happens, remember what it felt like and consider responding in a way that is sensitive to their feelings.

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Sunday, October 8, 2017

Getting Back on the Horse

Last month, in the article titled, "Finding Your Purpose In Life," I mentioned scheduling lunch with my friend, Tim Arthur. Well, this past week the two of us caught up at Randy's Pizza in Morrisville, NC. Like our recent telephone conversation, we were able to get in sync pretty quickly. We always do.

While we talked about a variety of topics, the one that hit me hardest came after a short walk down memory lane. Between the two of us, we talked about writing, our podcasts, and just being active all around. As I sit here and think about it, it was a good time. The sky was the limit and our future looked bright. Then, like the power company shutting everything off, it went dark. All of the activity that we were putting out there just stopped. No more writing, no more podcasts, no more events, no more speaking engagements, it just ended cold turkey.

"Can you imagine where you would be today if you never stopped?" Tim asked. I nodded my head in agreement. "Yeah, I would be in a much different place." I responded.

A brief silence seemed to fill the air as I tried to recall what I was thinking at the time. Why did I give it all up? I asked myself.

In an instant, I saw my whole life flash before my eyes. I have done this before. When things were going great, I made a decision to stop when it would have been easier to just keep going. I stepped down from leadership in my fraternity (both local and statewide), I stopped working out in the gym, I stopped actively building my business, I stopped writing, I stopped pursuing my doctoral degree, I stopped a handful of podcast shows, and I stopped attending local networking events.

Looking back, I recognize that it was a lot of effort, time, and money, but I enjoyed it a great deal. I was making a difference both personally and in the lives of others. I miss it.

As I revisit my notes, dust off my microphones, and quietly game plan my re-entry into the world I walked away from, I see those people who never stopped. Some have made huge gains while others appear to be in the same position that they were before. I get the sense that they are simply treading water. While they are still in the game, I wonder if they've lost the drive to keep pushing themselves like they once did.

From across the table, Tim smiled at me and asked if I remember the reason that I stopped. While I don't remember the exact words, I may have said something to the effect of "I needed money." I do recall struggling a bit financially and when I saw a potential lifeline, I took it. I went all in for a season and it produced some pleasantly surprising results. Unfortunately, I later realized that I gave up too much of myself, my passions, and my talent that I started feeling lost. Like a ship without a rudder, I was all over the place. While I enjoyed myself, something was missing. That something was ME.

I can either spend my entire life building someone else's brand or I can get back to building my own. In writing that, I have to remember what makes me happy, what makes me feel fulfilled, and what excites me each and every morning. "That is what I should be doing!" I silently tell myself.

It starts with me. Knowing where I plan on going and putting the energy behind it is something I am good at doing. However, I also recognize that I have slowed down and even stopped doing many things because others couldn't keep up, didn't like it, or had a different plan for me. Unfortunately, I gave in and here is where I sit.

Truthfully, I think I am much wiser now. I believe that I've learned a valuable lesson. For as long as God gives me the gift of life, I plan on running like Forrest Gump. While it may take me a second to get up to full speed, I am ready to get back on the horse and take full control over my life. I can do it!

As Tim and I brought that part of our conversation to a close, he said one other thing that continues to rest with me today. He said that I have a gift of encouragement and inspiration. During that time of our lives, he felt empowered and supported. I was a man who had direction and it oozed from every pore on my body.

While he may not have realized it then, Tim reminded me of who I was and it felt fantastic. Like the many personal successes I've experienced before, they are still possible. Not just for me, but for all of us. I may have started this article sharing my story, but this is really a testimony can effect us all.

Maybe like me, you've spent the last few years hiding your light. Maybe, like me, you've been holding back the talent, passion, and gifts God gave you. If so, let us take this opportunity to decide that we are better than that. We aren't doing anybody any good by hiding our true selves and the purpose we have been given. I'm not saying it will be easy, sometimes the road back is littered with challenges and stumbling blocks, but it can be done.

As we look in the mirror, understand that you are a Champion and you have been created to do great things. Now is the time to brush the dust off and let your light shine. The power to choose is within you. Let's stop ending what God has given us. You and I deserve to realize and become our very best selves. That journey begins today! Let's return to whom and what were destined to become.

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Saturday, October 7, 2017

Should I Post Native Social Content or Link to the Blog?

Should I post native social content or link to the blog?

This article examines the question, "Is it better to post native content on social media websites or link back to my blog?" To help give some context to this article, let me explain how I got here.

Background Story

Recently, I returned to writing longer form articles. For the past few years, I resorted to posting pictures on social media and writing a short paragraph related to the image. It could be a story, thought, or some kind of update. While it served the purpose, I always felt that I needed to more fully explore topics. For me, this meant going back to the blog. 

Whenever you write an article, you want it to be read. Because I had a community on the various social sites, I went there first to share the story. I continued to do what I had been doing over the previous number of years, I posted a picture and text. However, the difference is that my posts were much longer than before. 

While it didn't appear to cause any reduction in Likes or engagement, I did read a few observations from readers that the posts were much longer. Not that longer is a bad thing. If the topic is interesting and people are willing to stop long enough to read, then I'm OK with that. Although, I am not ignoring the fact that some people are not actually reading, but simply looking at the pictures. I accept that reality, too. 

One day, I post my longer form article to Facebook like I had been doing many times before and it got next to zero Likes or engagement. What happened? I asked. Was it the time of day that I posted it? Was the picture not a good one? Was it just not a good topic? What's wrong?

The next day, in an effort to understand the recent outcome, I shared a really nice picture, posted it earlier in the day (versus late at night), and wrote a story that I believed many could get behind. Unfortunately, nothing changed. It happened for a second time in a row. I was perplexed. How can my stories be active one day, but in need of life support the next?

Over the next couple of articles, I tried following my previous routine. To help increase the reach, I started sharing the post to my Facebook groups. Still, no amount of activity on my part seemed to revive the underwhelming activity on these posts. 

While at work, one of my co-workers made a comment about not seeing my article that morning. This gentleman said that he always looked forward to reading my posts (Thank you, Zach!), but hadn't seen anything. It was right then that I realized what happened. Facebook was playing around with my organic reach. To say that in another way, Facebook wasn't letting my posts get the same attention that it had been getting. I was so disappointed to learn this was happening, but I couldn't let Facebook win. 

As a result, I decided to take back the control and direct what little traffic I was getting on the social networks to my blog directly. In addition, I would rely more heavily on my email list. My thought process was that email will touch every subscriber's inbox. From there, I had a better chance of getting read. Also, by directing traffic from the social networks, I would ultimately build up this email list and eventually bypass any algorithm changes in Google, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or LinkedIn. 

Linking Back to the Blog

Disheartened by Facebook's recent change, I started posting articles as links. This means I stopped sharing the whole article as a post and simply posted a link with an introduction. The social network typically pulled the graphic from my website and then I posted it. Again, the number of Likes and engagement stayed uncommonly low. Thankfully, LinkedIn didn't appear to squelch the post like what I noticed on Facebook.

In addition to sharing on Facebook, I also posted on LinkedIn, Twitter, Google+, and Google+ communities. As a result, I noticed the number of website visitors on my blog went up. I even noticed a number of new email subscribers. That was an exciting turn of events. 

I continued to post articles as links back to my site and the number of page views continued to rise on my blog. Still, the Likes and comments on Facebook remained close to dead. It just felt like the post never really got off the the ground. 

Over the next few days, I started to cut up my articles into smaller pieces of content and schedule them using Buffer. Taking one blog article, I could cut it up into multiple quotes, images, questions, and main points. Each time I shared a smaller piece of the whole, I would add a link back to my website. This only continued to improve my page views while Likes and engagement on Facebook stayed dry. 

Native Social Content

Up to this point, I have talked about posting content on different social networks as regular posts, but it seems that a number of social networks, mainly Facebook and LinkedIn, are trying to formalize the practice and give publishers greater control over the look and feel of an article.

In this section, I want to quickly introduce what Facebook and LinkedIn are doing to assist publishers and then share my results.

Facebook Post vs Facebook Note vs Facebook Instant Articles

As outlined above, my recent strategy has been posting the entire article within a Facebook post along with a picture, which produced somewhere between 40 and 100 Likes. There were a few posts that skyrocketed into the the 200 Like range. This became my benchmark for what followed.

While I found the engagement worked, I didn't like that I lost text formatting in the process. Because my posts were much longer than a normal picture with text, I believe it was hard to follow headers and subheaders in the text because the font size and color was the same throughout.

As a result, I found that Facebook Notes allows for a much better user experience. If you are unfamiliar with Notes, it has been around for years. I'm going to guess since 2010 or 2011. In the beginning, it was pretty barebones, but Facebook upgraded it to include better text formatting along with multiple image options. Unfortunately, posting long form content in Notes produced next to zero Likes or comments. I just knew that Facebook would value Notes over long posts, but this wasn't the case for me.

Yesterday, I found that Facebook has rolled out a feature called Instant Articles. From what I have been able to gather, it is a publishing service that pulls articles from RSS feeds and APIs into Facebook. To put it another way, it takes our external articles and pulls them into Facebook so that users will not have to leave Facebook. As of this post, I have crafted 5 articles from my blog and submitted them for review. According to the message I received, it should take 3-5 days to hear something back.

In addition to publishing directly into Facebook from our RSS feeds, the company is now offering a way to get paid from ad placement throughout our content. Does this mean our native social content will be viewed more often than before? Will it result in more Likes and engagement? Once I start getting some feedback on this new feature, I'll let you know.

LinkedIn Pulse

Similar to Facebook's Instant Articles, LinkedIn also provides a place for publishers to post full articles, it's called LinkedIn Pulse. From what I understand, authors are able to submit written work through the "Write an article" feature.

Based on my experience, having submitted articles through Pulse and as mere links to my blog, the views and engagement are about the same. While some topics just do better than others, I believe that LinkedIn serves both the native article and the linked article about the same. While I could be wrong, know that I am basing this observation on my own views, Likes, and comments for both types of content.

Like Facebook, any content that is published through Pulse receives text formatting, links, images and more. This tool makes articles look really nice and presentable.

Pros & Cons of Native Social Content

In this section, I look at the pros and cons of posting my content directly into the social network versus linking back to my website. With native social content, I am including Facebook Instant Articles and LinkedIn Pulse to the comparison.


  • Facebook Posts tend to get more Likes and comments than sharing external links
  • Visitors don't have to leave the social network to read the article
  • With more Likes and higher engagement, I have more opportunities to be found by new readers
  • Content can look very attractive when using native publishing tools


  • I have no control over who sees my content because I'm at the mercy of the social network's algorithm
  • My website's pageviews drop dramatically
  • Search engine ranking could be negatively affected by lack of new posts and engagement
  • Facebook Notes, while more attractive than a regular post, underperformed against the less formatted post
  • There are fewer new email subscribers because they never actually see the call to action on my website
  • With no website visitors, my ads are not being seen, which means no revenue generated 
  • Posts on social networks don't have a long shelf life in the way articles on my blog do


To determine whether the results are good or bad, one has to understand the desired outcomes. For me, I primarily want my content to be read. Additionally, I enjoy the engagement that comes along with a good post. Just recently, I asked a question related to a blog article and got some pretty heartfelt responses. I love hearing stories and receiving questions from readers. 

Clearly, I don't like it when Facebook or any service provider changes how they do business and I am negatively affected. In this case, I was receiving fewer viewers and engagement than before. Instead, I would much rather be in control of the outcome then giving that control to someone else. Additionally, I would hate to lose all of my work should the company decide to close its doors. 

I didn't start writing to receive money, but when I received a check in the mail for the advertisements on my website, I was pleased as punch. No, it's not a driving force, but it is a nice perk. Currently, I don't see any financial benefit from the social networks, excluding YouTube. YouTube, like my blog, pays me for advertisements. However, it is important to remember that Facebook Instant Articles offers financial benefits through its ad network.

While I enjoy the immediate response and engagement of posts on social media, I also like the long-term benefits of pointing visitors to my blog. I have articles and videos that are being found and read 7 years after I initially created them. The shelf life of an article on social is a few hours, at best. Additionally, I'm curious to find out how many people are searching Facebook or LinkedIn for articles. Are articles on social networks even indexed in search engines?

Closing Thought

As I bring this article to a close, I hope that you found value. While there are opportunities and benefits for posting as native content, I think I am going to continue my latest effort and focus more intently on building damondnollan.com. This means that I will write my articles here and then share snippets, questions, small videos, quotes, and highlights from the blog on the external social networks, but provide readers with a link back to my website. This will help me build my email list, regain control over my success, and help provide a more consistent relationship with you, the reader.  

I imagine that as I learn more about the topic, I will either come back to this article and update it or deep dive into other areas of related interest.

Questions for Discussion

I would love to hear from you on this topic. What is your position on posting content directly to Facebook, LinkedIn, and the other social networks? Do you prefer posting entire articles or creating links back to your website? What have you found to be most beneficial? What success have you experienced by using Facebook Instant Articles, Facebook Notes, or LinkedIn Pulse?

As a reader, what do you prefer? Do you want to read an entire article via social sites or do you prefer reading it on the author's website?

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Tuesday, October 3, 2017

5 Tips to Improve Your Follow Through On Plans

"Actions prove who someone is, words just prove who they want to be." ~ Unknown

As I drove to work this morning, I felt like a mess. I have been going to bed late at night and then waking up in the morning with just enough time to shower and dress. The food choices have been less than ideal and I feel behind on what feels like everything. Have you ever felt like that?

If you have, then you know the sinking, and often depressing, feeling that comes with it. You know that if you can apply just enough energy to the problem, it would be fixed. Unfortunately, all you want to do is lounge, sleep, watch television, or do those things that are NOT on your list of priorities.

When I think about it, I know exactly what the problem is and it stems from a lack of follow through. If you look at my calendar, the plan is staring me in the face. If I were to only follow the system, schedule, and plan that I have worked so hard to create, I would be in a much better place.

It's not a lack of knowledge or planning that's the problem, it's simply that we're not doing what we know we should be doing. Maybe it's boring, difficult, painful, tiring, confusing, or simply not fun to do. Shoot, why cut the grass when we can watch a football game instead?

Please know that you are not alone. We all have those feelings, but some of us just let the feeling get the best of us more often than we should. For those that know me well, they could probably attest to the fact that I am a procrastinator and my follow through game is sorely lacking.

While we may suffer from a lack of follow through, it doesn't mean that we are destined to be this way for life. I would submit to you that you that we can turn things around if we really want to. Remember the last time you had to clean up your house in a hurry? Yeah, it was probably around the time an unexpected guest was on their way over, right?

If you can clean your house in 10 minutes or less when a highly respected individual is coming over, why is it so hard to do it any other time of the day? It comes down to motivation and discipline.

I know, how is that helpful? You ask. Well, we know that with the right motivation, we can do some pretty impressive things. However, it is discipline that will help you maintain the long term success of an action.

So, you can either give in to the fact that you lack follow through or you can make an effort to pull your life together. What will it be?

Oh, you've decided to keep on reading, huh? Good, that means you're ready to get things back under control. Below, I am providing five tips to improving our follow through.

Start Small

Anytime I want to get back in the gym, like right about now, I find this method works perfectly. Instead of jumping in head first and killing yourself in the gym, start small. Let me pause and say to you, this strategy is not limited to just fitness. No, it can apply to any and everything. Ok?

To begin, determine what you want to achieve in the gym. Maybe you want to walk for 30 minutes a day or lift weights for an hour. Whatever the goal, divide it by 4. So, in the case of a 30 minute walk, you would divide it by four and get 7 minutes and 30 seconds. If you want to lift weights for an hour, you would divide it by four and get 15 minutes.  

Now, we talk about strategy. Start by doing 7.5 minutes of walking or 15 minutes of weight training. Both of these are relatively easy to do because it doesn't take that much effort. For the first week, do 1/4 of the work for as many days as you plan to be in the gym. I would imagine this number would be somewhere between 3-5 days out of the week. 

On week two, we will increase it by 1/4. Now, we will be doing 15 minutes of cardio or 30 minutes of weight training. As the weeks go by, continue to increase it by 1/4 until you reach your desired level. 

The point of this exercise is to start small. It could be 1/5 or 1/6 of your goal, but if you start small enough, you will find it much easier to tackle. It is by doing that you help create a new habit. Additionally, should you find that you're missing workouts, that means you should go back a step until you are able to find your rhythm. Then, when you've corrected yourself, go back to where you were before. 

Remember, take your time. We are in pursuit of changing your life for the long-term. 

Reward Yourself

Making changes isn't always easy, but when you do follow through on your plans, reward yourself. Since we started our examples with the gym, let's continue for a little while longer. 

Let's assume that you just finished your workout. By now, you should feel exhilarated because you finished something that was on your list. Let's add to that amazing feeling by consuming a nutritious and flavorful protein drink. Pick a flavor that you enjoy and let it serve as an "atta boy" or "atta girl" for a job well done. 

Whatever you decide to use, just make sure it is sustainable and that it doesn't ruin your previous effort. An example would be consuming a large pepperoni pizza after a 15 minute walk on the treadmill. I guarantee you'll never be able to outrun a pizza if that's all you're doing. Let the reward be something that furthers your activity, not detract from it. 

Keep Track of Your Progress 

One way to encourage continued action is by seeing results. Be it in the gym or a weekly sales report, find a way to measure your progress and compare it to previous weeks. Are you noticing a difference? Even if it's small, take notice of the changes that you're making. By competing against yourself, you will find a level of fun and determination that will help maintain the activity.  

Forgive Yourself

While we probably have a long history of not following through on our plans, it is important to remember that we're not perfect. Something will happen, as it invariably does, but the secret is to quickly forgive yourself for the mishap and keep it moving. It's when we beat ourselves up over a fall that we tend to stay there longer than we should. When you fall, get back up as quickly as you can and just keep pressing forward. By creating a habit of taking action and building momentum, it will be harder to stop once you start. Unfortunately, if you stop for too long, that can become your new habit.

Hang With Eagles

Remember, you are who you hang around. If you want to change your habit of taking action, get around people who take action in their own lives. As you spend time with them, you will find yourself inspired to get off your duff and go do the very thing you know you should be doing.

"If you were born with the weakness to fall, you were born with the strength to rise." ~ Rupi Kaur

Questions for Discussion

In the comment section below, let's talk about your lack of follow through. Where are you struggling most? What have you tried? What worked well? What didn't? What are some of those things you want to get done, but haven't?

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