Showing posts with label Self-Help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self-Help. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

Being Better Than We Were Yesterday

Damond Nollan cooking healthy meals


“Consistency is what transforms average into excellence.” ~ Unknown

For years, I've idolized professional bodybuilders because of how they've transformed their vessels into these finely crafted statues of art. It's amazing to me!

More recently, I found myself once again consuming large quantities of online videos that talk about how to build muscle and cut fat from our bodies. With so much information, it can feel a bit overwhelming. Who should we listen to? What's really possible? What are my goals?

Like many of you, I've wrestled with my weight. To be more specific, I'm talking about my fat storage. For some reason, my fat likes to hang out most notably around my midsection. As a result, I find that my pants no longer button easily and my shirts never flow straight down my body. Instead, they seem to find this obnoxious detour around my "love handles."

Looking back through my journals, being in shape is probably one of the most common themes that I've had growing up. I just want to be the best that I can possibly be at this age and every age that I am blessed to experience.

The secret, as I have been told, is that there is no secret to achieving the body of our dreams. Many of us already know what to do. We eat right and increase our physical activity. Do this enough times and we will see the fruit of our labor.

Unfortunately, it's not a one and done proposition. Years ago, when I lost a considerable amount of fat, I quickly realized that if we don't continue doing what got us to our goals, we will eventually lose it and return back into the person that we were before.

In the bodybuilding world, we've seen examples of this with Arnold Schwarzenegger, Ronnie Coleman, Kevin Levrone, and Flex Wheeler, where they went from superhero to mere mortal. Be it through an accident or retirement, when the bodybuilders stop lifting, they lose the muscle.

On one hand, that realization has a way of taking the wind out of our sails. Who would want to put that much time and energy into something that will only disappear the minute you stop doing it? On the other side, I would very much like to be lean around the waist and nicely proportioned with a noteworthy amount of muscle mass everywhere else.

I know that I can achieve it. I've done it before and I can do it again. However, there is one thing I would like to do different and that is keeping my results long term. I'm tired of the up and down weight fluctuations. Let it be a consistent and steady grind toward the body that I envision.


“Excellence is the gradual result of always striving to do better.” ~ Pat Riley

As many of us return to the gym, it is important to note that instead of chasing a picture perfect moment, how about we create a lasting lifestyle that follows and defines us. Instead of killing ourselves for 90 days, how about we seek consistency in our overall improvement. From our bodies to our minds, each day should be focused on making life better than it was yesterday. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, how about we compare ourselves to the one that stares at us in the mirror. We are our biggest competition. Let's not run a sprint for short-term gains, but decide to run a marathon that pays handsomely for the duration of our stay.

While we have primarily been talking about our health and overall fitness, consider applying this very lesson to all areas of our life. Let's find a rhythm that we can realistically maintain and then let's push ourselves ever so slightly in an effort to grow and improve.

Imagine who, where, and what we could be if we had simply started and never quit. Let's not look back at this time next year and see that we are in exactly the same place. Lets' keep track of our weights, fat percentages, money in the bank, degrees on our walls, and experiences that we've created as measurements for our constant and intentional effort to be better.

Remember this: You are a CHAMPION. So, let's make today a marvelous, and incrementally better, day.

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Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Going Back to the Bahamas in December

Hotel overlooking the ocean in the Bahamas

It has been confirmed. I am going back to the Bahamas this December!

Last year, me and about 350 friends went to South Beach Miami for a couple days. While we were there, we attended a Miami Heat's game, hung out on the beach, ate at some of the best restaurants, and enjoyed a time of relaxation.

A stylized picture of Atlantis in the Bahamas

For many, that would be the whole vacation. Instead, we jumped on the Norwegian Sky and cruised our way from the port in Miami, Florida to beaches in the Bahamas. It's where I had my first full-body massage, raced down the scariest water slides, and met a ton of new friends.

Looking back, I thoroughly enjoyed my trip. This time, I'm taking some people with me. Here's the itinerary:

  • Friday: Ship departs from Miami, Florida
  • Saturday: We hang out at the private beach in Great Stirrup Cay, Bahamas
  • Sunday: Enjoy a relaxing swim, visit the aquarium, scuba dive, and go head first down the water slides at Atlantis on the island of Nassau, Bahamas 
  • Monday: Return back to Miami, Florida and attend a Heat's game
A beautiful shot of a gazebo overlooking the ocean in the Bahamas

In between all of that, we get to enjoy a private VIP party on the boat, massages, formal dinners with some of the best food ever, evenings in the casino, and a beautiful view during the entire trip. How awesome is that?

To get an idea of what last year looked like, check out the gallery below:

This year, I'd like to take some time to explore something new. For those that have been, what would you recommend I do? Where should I eat?

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Wednesday, July 17, 2013

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Wednesday, July 3, 2013

"Rhythms of the Night" on the Beach of Las Caletas

Eating Lunch Off the Beaten Path in Mexico


Continuing the tour of Puerto Vallarta, our guide took us off the main highway onto a dirt road that led into the jungle. Hidden from the world was a small neighborhood with homes and a single church. Behind the homes, near a stream, rests a fantastic restaurant where I ate some of the most memorable food in Mexico.
In this video, I capture my thoughts on the trip. All I can say is...if you're not seeing the world, you're not really traveling.

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Creating a National Geographic Moment in Mexico

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Stop Pushing Dead Bears Up Trees!


Last night, I attended an intimate event at a friend's house in Raleigh, North Carolina. There were probably around twelve people in attendance, but the event left me feeling excited and hopeful about the future. It was about the possibilities, I guess.

During one conversation, I recall thinking how in sync the participants were. When they talked about the things they'd like to do in their lives, it was almost as if they had invaded my head because I felt the same way. For every new idea came a corresponding, "Uh huh!" and acknowledging nod. It was fascinating!

In retrospect, there are times where one feels like they're pushing "dead bears up trees." To put that another way, no matter how much you try to move people, it's practically impossible when they don't want to be moved.

Life can be so much easier if we stop trying to change other people's behaviors as a means to succeed in our own lives. Instead, let's work and play with people who share the same vision, mission, and beliefs as we do.

I once heard a wise man say, "Stay around the fire." What I understood him to mean by that statement is that we should hang around the people who are doing what we want to do. As a kid, my mother would constantly remind me that we become like those we hang around. "If you want to be a druggie, hang around people who do drugs. If you want to be successful, hang around successful people!" she would say.

Therefore, I leave you with this thought. Instead of trying to change the people around you, how about changing the people around you. Do life with people who share similar interests as you and watch how much more you enjoy the journey.

Stop pushing dead bears up trees and soar with the eagles!

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Be More Proactive Using These Four Tips


"Work brings profit, but mere talk leads to poverty!" - Proverbs 14:23

Earlier this week, I had a lively discussion with a co-worker about how she was managing a project I'm involved in. It started, for me, with some ambiguities in her reports. In an effort to seek clarification, I asked her a series of questions both during and after her presentation in hopes of understanding the big picture. Somewhere in the discussion, she turned my lack of understanding back on me. "You're late!" she explained. "You have had opportunities to insert your authority but let those opportunities pass you by. I'm not going to wait for you to get it together because I have work to do and value to create."

The conversation lasted about an hour and it involved plenty of verbal arm wrestling. My goal was to uncover the "secret recipe" and better understand the rules of engagement for the project she's leading. Her goal, based on the conversation, was to get stuff done by any means necessary, even if that meant taking advantage of people's passive behavior. Not that I'm against that tactic, I just wanted her to verbalize the strategy be open about it.

By the end of our discussion, my mind raced over the conversation. Specifically, I replayed those comments that seemed to attack my actions (or in her case, my inactivity). Was she right about me? Does she see something in me that I don't or have I failed to acknowledge my own weaknesses?

Given a day to ponder over the details, I concluded that we weren't at odds with one another. In fact, her tactic is one that I've adopted many times in both my career and personal life. My line of questioning wasn't to disagree, but to understand. I imagine that she took it as an attack and retaliated with some well placed defensive shots. Many of those shots were misses and a valiant effort to ward off my passionate inquiry. However, there were a couple of comments that highlighted a known weakness. Some call it passivity, I call it procrastination. Whatever you call it, the solution in my mind is being proactive with a focus on achieving results.

How To Be More Proactive


In the following section, I share some tips on developing a proactive habit and a tool to help track your achievements.

Act decisively
If you are currently in the passenger's seat, one of the first things you can do to take control over a situation is to make a decision. Proactive people make decisions.

Sometimes, it doesn't matter if the initial decision is right or wrong but rather that a decision was made. Remember, even the smartest people make mistakes so don't be afraid to step up and insert yourself. If you are wrong, admit it and adjust.

Lesson: To take control over a situation, start by making a decision.

Act now
If you see a problem or injustice, don't wait to address it later, act now. Not every problem requires your personal attention. Often, you can delegate this task to someone more qualified than you, but failure to act on a problem means the solution will most assuredly be outside your control. It is better to address an issue when you see it versus waiting for someone else to call attention to it.

Lesson: If you wait until someone tells you what to do, you have already lost control.

Stay organized
Once you have identified the problem and delegated the task, it is important to follow up regularly. One of the easiest ways to stay organized is through the use of a calendar. By adding important items to your schedule, you remind yourself to follow up. Allowing the problem to go unnoticed or unsolved for too long can be the difference between driving or riding.

Lesson: Use a calendar to remind yourself to follow up on issues.

Think ahead
Once you have taken control of the situation, you should now have time to get in front of other problems before they happen. I call this thinking ahead.

Thinking ahead requires an active mind that seeks to improve processes and correct that which is broken. While everything cannot be done at the same time, thinking ahead provides an opportunity to prioritize what is most important before someone else does it for you.

Lesson: Stay in front of the problem. Once it gets past you, someone else may end up taking the reigns.

Note: These tips were first mentioned in Be Proactive And Take Control Of Your Life.

Follow Your Achievements With iDoneThis
It's good to think about your upcoming tasks, but the secret for success falls under your ability to actually complete them. 

Just over a year ago, I found a service named iDoneThis. The free web-based tool provides a place to list all of your daily accomplishments and then uses those achievements to inspire you. At the very least, iDoneThis is an excuse to evaluate the productivity of your day. Are you doing busy work or completing meaningful tasks?

Recently, the company rolled out a shared list that you and your team can use. I have one for my  web developers and another one for people trying to complete their dissertation. It's been helpful.

To get more information about iDoneThis or sign up for a free personal account, follow this link.

Closing Thought


What initially started out as a lively discussion about process turned into an opportunity for exploring my own weaknesses. As much as I hate to admit it, arguments, complaints, and personal attacks are often valuable ways to identify areas of improvements. In this article, we looked at ways to create a proactive habit and track daily achievements.

In the comment section below, I would love to hear your story. How do you stay proactive in your life? What tools do you use?

Image Credit: Wordle.net

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Manage Life Like You Water Plants

Each morning, upon my arrival into the office, I gather my coffee supplies and proceed with brewing a fresh cup of hot java. If you've ever made coffee then you know that it requires a clean pot, coffee grounds, filter, and cold water.

As of late, I've been filling the coffee pot to its maximum capacity, although I only use 4 cups worth of water. Why? Because the other six cups help hydrate my plants.

I first noticed the change last week and realized how healthy my plants had become. Instead of watering them once a week, like I had done for years, my daily watering seemed to have turned my babies around for the better.

This particular morning, I started thinking about how much easier life would be if we managed it like we water plants.

Examples

  • Cleaning House - Instead of cleaning the house on Saturday morning, why not clean as you go throughout the week. For example, when you get out of the shower, wipe the tub before it dries or make your bed as soon as you get up.
  • Paying Bills - When you get a bill in the mail, why not schedule a payment through your bank. The check doesn't have to go out right then, but once you set it...forget it.

Inch By Inch

You know the saying, "Inch by inch anything's a cinch." Like watering the plants each morning, it takes no real extra effort to hydrate them while making coffee. So too then is life. Let's look around our lives to find ways to do a little work each day.

Feedback

In the comment section below, I would love to hear your thoughts. What other examples of smaller tasks do you have that make life so much easier?

Saturday, February 18, 2012

3 Recommended Changes To Improve Communication Skills


A couple of years ago, I wrote a post titled Better Communication: Annotate Your Thoughts, which I wrote after a fraternity brother made a comment about my administration's poor communication. As the president of the local chapter, I take responsibility for our lack of sharing and transparency. I still do.

Earlier this week, the local chapter fell victim to another issue that could have been avoided had we developed a stronger communication system. As a result of that situation, I'd like to brainstorm some initial thoughts on the subject and identify a few recommendations for making things better in the future.

Problem
Without going too deep into the chapter's business, something unexpected happened. Instead of addressing the issue immediately, the problem festered and quickly grew out of control. There were plenty of rumors and assumptions to go around. As a result, members grew concerned, upset, frustrated, confused, and ultimately distracted. For days, it spread from one part of the state to the other and back again.

In the past, these kinds of problems caused unnecessary complications that do more harm than good. While I use the fraternal organization to introduce the topic, this problem is not limited to our membership, region, or gender only. It can happen to you, too. It's universal.

The Back Story
What I haven't told you is that my administration was all over the problem from the moment it reared it's ugly head. Unfortunately, nobody outside the few called to fix it were aware of the strategy and the action to resolve  it. As a result, people reacted the way you'd expect them to react in the absence of information. They panicked. Can I blame them? Absolutely not!

In hindsight, I would have handled it a bit different. Instead of keeping silent, I would have reported what I knew and shared our plan to resolve it. As new information became available, I would continue to provide updates. It's that simple.

Moving forward, I would like to share a few recommendations on what I can do better next time. While I'm writing it for me, feel free to borrow whatever you need.

Recommendations For Change

Recognize The Problem
In my story, the first bad decision was not communicating with the membership. When I was first made aware of the issue, I should have recognized that there was a problem.

At work, I receive hundreds of emails per day. Sometimes I respond immediately and other times I schedule  a response for later in the day (or week...if I'm really busy). Most people accept a reasonable delay with email or voice mail. However, if it takes too long to respond, a small issue can quickly grow out of control.

Recommendation: Recognize the problem when you are first made aware of its existence. You can do this by responding to an email or verbally expressing that you identify that there is a problem.

Provide Updates Often
The second mistake in this whole situation was not involving the chapter in our game plan. As the week rolled on, the membership received no official word on what the next steps were going to be. As a result, brothers started taking matters into their own hands.

Recommendation: Be open and transparent about what others can expect from you. Share your plans and any related updates regularly.

Act Now
One of the worst things one can do in a situation like this is to do NOTHING at all. Listening to doctors, early detection and a deliberate response is a good thing. Waiting for things to get better without action is bad. Ignoring an issue often leads to a bigger problem.

Recommendation: Don't wait for problems to iron themselves out. Act NOW!

In closing, remember to recognize the problem when you are first made aware of it, control expectations by sharing your plans for resolution, and take action immediately.

Thursday, December 15, 2011

Returning To Tim Ferriss' Slow-Carb Diet


It's that time of year where I begin to re-evaluate myself. How close am I to reaching my goals? What can I do better?

Today, that re-evaluation focuses on my health and weight loss.

Losing 30 Pounds In 20 Days
For those that have been following this blog for at least a year, you may remember my slow-carb diet experiment. In short, I became aware of a book titled, "The 4-Hour Body," which was written by Tim Ferriss. The author claimed one can lose 20 pounds in 30 days without exercising.

Up until that point, I had been working out in the gym, but my weight loss began to plateau. I believe the plateau had everything to do with my eating habits. It needed a jolt.

Hearing about the slow-carb diet was both interesting and exciting. What if I could lose weight without exercising? How might things be different?

Immediately, I set out to explore this new idea. My first challenge was to focus on 30 days. Could I do it? Would the diet work? So many questions, but there was only one way to find out.

Thirty days roll by and I had my answer. In summary, I did lose weight. Was it 20 pounds off the scale? No. However, I did lose inches and body fat, which was very encouraging. If I could do that in 30 days, what could I do with another 30? To follow my complete slow-carb diet experiment, check out the blog that started it all.

Slow-Carb to Low-Carb
In March, I decided to leave the slow-carb diet for a low-carb diet (essentially, it was the Atkins Diet). The observation at the time was that I lost weight more rapidly with low carbs than when on the slow-carb diet. While this may have been true, I became concerned with the amount of fat and cholesterol I had been consuming. I love eating steak, eggs, cheese, and the like, but what was it doing to my heart?

In my mind, eating a slow-carb diet felt more healthy. I was eating lean cuts of meat, vegetables, and legumes multiple times a day. It just feels more safe and balanced.

A few months back, I started adding carbohydrates back into my diet. It started as a slice of bread with my eggs. Then, it turned into noodles for lunch. Finally, I found myself eating sweets and other desserts more often than I should.

As a result, what achievements I maintained from my slow-carb and low-carb diets started slipping. I went from 250 to 258lbs. My stomach was growing and my face began to fill out. It was then that I decided I had better stop what I'm doing and get back on a plan.

Last year, I made the decision to lose weight and I lost around 30lbs during the 2010 and 2011 time frame. I believe that I can continue that trend in 2012.

The Plan
My plan is to get back in the gym and eat right. This means returning to my pre-slow-carb diet regimen where I did cardio and weight training. In addition to the physical activity, I plan to use the slow-carb diet as my method of nutrition.

I believe doing both will help me achieve another round of considerable weight loss.

In addition to the diet and exercise, I would like to once again blog about my journey. Like before, I would provide a weekly update on my activities, challenges, thoughts, and progress. Looking back over last years update, I found it to be quite motivational and insightful.

With that written, you may be glad to learn that I have already started the diet. As of this post, I have been eating the slow-carb way for just over 2 weeks. It hasn't been without its challenges, but for the most part I'm doing well.

Since this article essentially announced my plan, let me share my starting measurements. Then, in subsequent articles, I'll provide more detailed information on my recent activities.

Measurements
  • Weight: 258 lbs
  • Height: 6' 2"
  • Age: 36 
  • Body Fat: 21.8% 
  • Chest: 43.5"
  • Waist: 42.5"
  • Arms: 16.0"
  • Shoulders: 51.5"
  • Forearms: 14"
  • Neck: 16.6"
  • Hips: 46.75"
  • Thighs: 26.25"
  • Calves: 17.5"
  • Stomach: 45.75"
Feedback
Well, that just about does it for now. If you have any comments or questions, feel free to share them with me in the comment section below.

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Live Blogging C3 Church: Being Real


Foundational Scripture - Romans 7:14-25

Pastor Matt Fry reads the foundational scripture and begins talking about Paul. Paul wants to do what is right and good, but he battles with himself. He continues to explain how transparent Paul was with this passage. Paul was real.

As Christians, we find that we can be real everyplace else but many are not real in their churches. Pastor Matt encourages us to be real. Additionally, we need to provide a place where others can come and find comfort.

Honesty leads to freedom.

There three things we need to be real with:
Get Real With GodGod already knows your heart. It's like many of us play games with God. He knows what you're going through and he cares.  
Like parents, we know what are kids are going through and we're just waiting for them to ask for help. 
We need to confess our sins to God and he is faithful to forgive us of our sins.
There is power in prayer. On Wednesdays and Sundays, we have stations where we can be honest with God. We have prayer leaders. 
Get Real with YourselfWe need to humble ourselves. We can start by looking in the mirror. When we look into the mirror, we see adjustments that need to be made.  
We need to allow God's word to get into us. When we deny ourselves (pride), we tend to fall.  
Get Real with Each OtherWe can't just keep things to ourselves. We need to remove our masks and just be real with one another. We have to be ourselves. 
When we take off the mask, the following 5 things happen.

  1. You don't have to live with condemnation.
  2. God will set you free.
  3. God will use you to impact others for Jesus.
  4. You will link arms together with a church family that brings hope to their community.
  5. You will shine the light of Jesus in practical ways.

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Live Blogging C3 Church: How To Be A Mature Christian


Today, the message is brought to you by Pastor Greg Surratt from Seacoast Church.

Greg begins the message by asking, "What does a mature Christian look like?" Is it the way you lift your hands when you praise God? Is it what they wear? Is it what they know Biblically? Is it when someone speaks in tongues? Is it possible for a pastor or a good speaker to be immature? How do you know when you've arrived into spiritual maturity? What is the indicator?

It is important that you become mature in the Lord and that you KNOW how to distinguish maturity. Don't forget that God has a plan for you. From the moment you were born until the time you die, God has a plan for your life. We have to figure out our plan and how to mature in the Lord.

How do you figure that out? Greg asks. Pastor Surratt believes he found the answer in a small town called Rush Springs, OK. It has about 1,000 people and about an hour south of Oklahoma City.

Rush Springs is also known as the Watermelon Capital, which is clearly posted on their local water tower. The town has fully adopted that title and celebrate their identity through an annual celebration. Each year, they have watermelon seed spitting contests and also crown a Watermelon Queen. It was from that visit that he learned about being a mature Christian.

POINT 1: It is really hard to spot a mature watermelon just by looking at it
It is important to find a mature watermelon because it tastes really sweet. Pick an immature watermelon and you may never eat another watermelon again. Unfortunately, you cannot tell a mature watermelon simply by looking at it.

Similarly, as we tie this truth about watermelons to people, Greg makes this point: "Most assumptions you make about other people based on their outer appearance is wrong." Simply looking at the way people drive, what people wear, how people greet you, how people's hair are styled, and how they sound are poor factors to base opinions on.

Greg talks about a time he was grocery shopping. A lady jumped line while he waited to buy groceries. If SHE was a Christian then she wasn't a good one, he described. He based his entire opinion of her on our outer appearance.

He continued to explain that maybe she didn't see him. Maybe she was thinking about something else. Maybe she had a stomach bug that she was saving the entire store from. We just don't know.

Greg continues to explain how basing our opinions solely on the external is wrong. He switched subjects and started talking about how people use "X-Mas" vs. "Christmas". Someone once said that people that use X-Mas are lazy Christians. How do you KNOW that to be true? He asked.

Another example, from the Bible, comes from the Old Testament. Israel wanted a king, so they selected Saul. They realized he wasn't on God's wavelength. So, they they went to Samuel, who was their spiritual leader, for guidance. Samuel went to Jessie and asked for a king. Jessie said that his oldest son looks like a king. He would have blown it had they not chosen David.

God doesn't look at the outside to choose people, he looks at the heart.

Remember: Almost every judgement based on what you see is wrong.

As believers, God has placed us where we need to be. Immature believers, like an immature watermelon, can leave a bad taste in non-believers mouths. Therefore, we need to help Christians mature so that non-believers don't get a bad experience.

Greg tells another story about a cruise in the Mediterranean. They are eating breakfast and a couple asked to sit down. The wife was an IT Technician and the husband was a lawyer. Greg responded that he was a pastor.

As soon as Pastor Surratt shared his job (a pastor), the husband turned completely off. The lawyer explained that the most corrupt lawyers in his town are "Christians." The lawyer goes on and on about how "those Christians" should have a special place in hell for those kinds of people.

In Greg's quiet time that morning, God received a pertinent message (Second Peter Chapter 2). Greg, to the lawyer, "I've got some good and bad news." Pastor Surratt said that there is a Hell and you're probably going there. The good news is that God has a special place those Christians that you describe.

POINT 2: The only way to judge the maturity of a melon is to thump it
The resonance of a melon will tell you its maturity. An immature melon has a tingy or whiny sound while a mature melon has a more full sound. As Christians, you can tell its maturity level by thumping it. An immature Christian is whiny ("Oh God, things aren't going well...."), but a mature Christian is more full.

In Christianity, our faith has to be thumped.

So, what are examples of thumping our faith? One example is a challenging situation. Another way to measure maturity in faith is how long it takes realize that God uses challenges to help us grow. The more mature a Christian, the shorter amount of time it takes to realized the challenge as an opportunity to grow. We don't have to be thankful for sickness, for example, but rather thankful for the opportunity to thump our faith.

Two examples of things that thump our faith:

  • Unexpected delays is another example of a thump. Nothing is unexpected to God.
  • Difficult people is a third example of a thump.
POINT 3: Melons will not ripen once they detach from the vine
Similar to watermelons, Christians that detach themselves from the vine will not mature.

Ways to stay attached. When you wake up, say that "God loves me and God is for me."

Another thought, say that "God has good things in store for me today."

Even if bad things happen to you today, nothing can derail the plans for your life.

God will use challenging moments for our good. All things work togther for good for those that love the Lord.

Need A Fresh Start?
If you would like to make a fresh start in your life and receive God's love, pray this prayer:
Dear God, I realize I've sinned and I need you. Thank you for dying on the cross and rising from the grave. Come in to my heart and save me. Thank you for giving me eternal and abundant life. Help me to live for you, for the rest of my life. In Jesus' name. Amen.
To share your story, want more information about next steps, or just in need of prayer, please contact Pastor Matt Fry.

Sunday, October 23, 2011

C3 Church Live Blogging: Love (Week 6)


This weekend, C3 Church continues a new series entitled, "LOVE." Stay tuned during the 9:15 & 11:15 a.m. service (EST) for a live blog of Chris Pipe's sermon.

Refresh this page during those hours for a regularly updated post.

If you would like to view the service online, please click here.

If you would like more information about C3, please visit the web site.

10:22 am
If you would like to make a fresh start in your life and receive God's love, pray this prayer: 
Dear God, I realize I've sinned and I need you. Thank you for dying on the cross and rising from the grave. Come in to my heart and save me. Thank you for giving me eternal and abundant life. Help me to live for you, for the rest of my life. In Jesus' name. Amen. 
To share your story, want more information about next steps, or just in need of prayer, please contact Pastor Matt Fry.
10:20 am
Chris offers a challenge. If you have a deep hate for someone, forgive them today. 
10:15 am
Chris talks about an Amish community and a guy that planned to murder a bunch of people in a school. The man was heavily armed. He pushed all teachers and boys out, but kept the girls. He was so upset at God that he ended up killing a bunch of kids.
A mother that lost her daughter wrote a letter some 12 years later to the killer (who was now dead because he committed suicide). Once she emailed the letter telling him that she forgave him. Immediately, upon her releasing the letter, she felt the weight of bitterness and anger leave her. 
The Amish families forgave the killer. They forgave the man and actually supported the widow through financial support. 
10:12 am
Forgive and forget is not Biblical. Pains and scars do not go away. God does not forget, but he DOES forgive.
10:09 am
We show love by choosing to give up our right to be offended. We sometimes think that we have a right to be offended. We show love by making four promises: 1) I will not dwell on this incident. 2) I will not bring up this incident again and use it against you. 3) I will not talk to others about this incident (no gossip). 4) I will not let this incident stand between us or hinder our personal relationship.
10:07 am
If you can talk to someone in person, do it. If you can't do it in person, call them. If you cannot reach them, write a letter. You have to get it out of you.
10:06 am
Ok, so I know that I need to forgive but the question is HOW? God gives you the ability and courage. We show love by keeping short relational accounts. Don't wait until tomorrow to forgive, do it NOW.
10:02 am
Are you willing to apply your forgiveness policy to be the standard for how God forgives you? If you don't forgive others then God won't forgive you.
10:00 am
An apostle asked Jesus how many times one should forgive others. Jesus said that we should forgive each other 70 x 7. Forgiveness is always, it has no limits. There is no guarantee that it won't happen again because it probably will. 
9:58 am
Chris tells a story of a young girl sitting in the back seat of the car. She says, sin is like the rain on a car and the windshield wiper is like God wiping our sins away. Did you notice that the rain keeps coming? The girl said that will we keep sinning, God keeps forgiving.
9:54 am
Unforgiveness tortures us physically and emotionally. Our bodies are not created to hold on to hate, bitterness, and unforgiveness. When you do not forgive others, you open your life to the enemy. God doesn't want us to live life like that. If we do not forgive, we actually build a wall between us and God.
9:52 am
Chris tells a story of a king and his slave. When the slave could not repay a debt to the king, he pleaded for mercy. The king forgave his debt. Moments later, the same slave found someone else who owed him money. When the fellow slave could not repay a debt, he did everything he could to have him locked up. When the king found out that this happened, he threw the book at the slave for not forgiving a debt when his own debt was forgiven.
9:50 am
The wages of sin is death. We don't want to end up in Hell and we can never reach perfection. Also, we will never do enough to make up for the bad we do. However, through Jesus our ledger gets wiped clean. We become as clean as snow. With that written, how can we not forgive others when God eagerly forgives us.
9:48 am
What does the Bible say about unforgiveness. Here is a fact, we all sin every day. God knows all and sees all. He has a ledger of everything we have done and thought. 
9:46 am
The Romans did a good job of keeping track accounting. In business, this is a great skill to have. However, in relationships, we shouldn't keep track of how others do us wrong. 
9:43 am
Chris talks about his days as a child where he played soccer. As a child, we get hurt and then bounce back. As we get older, we don't bounce back as quickly when hurt. Three or four days later, he's still hurt. 
Many of us can understand physical pain and many more of us understand the emotional pain. We have a natural tendency to store up our hurt in order to "get back" at others when they do us harm. 
Today, we'll talk about how real love does not keep any record of wrongs. 
9:42 am
Foundational Bible verse for this sermon is 1 Corinthian 13:1-8 (NIV)
9:40 am
Chris Pipes comes on stage singing "I can't fight this feeling anymore..." 

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Feeling Overwhelmed With Email? Simplify.


This may sound like common sense, but when life gets complicated and you feel overwhelmed, look for ways to simply your life.

For weeks, or maybe even longer, I have been struggling to stay abreast of the many demands on my time. Let me see, there is my main gig as the IT Manager for North Carolina Central University, but then there is my role as a father.

When neither of those things are in effect, I try to stay abreast of the latest news in technology so that I can write blogs and host various podcasts.

Then, as if that wasn't enough, I serve as the Polemarch (President) of my fraternity's local chapter.

I'm sure that I can go on listing the number of responsibilities that I have, but this morning it hit me. I HAVE to simply my life.

For starters, I noticed that my e-mail account has far too many notifications. Within days, I can accumulate over 1,000 email messages. Just seeing 1,000+ messages causes a knee jerk reaction to avoid looking. That behavior just makes it worse. Avoiding the problem earned me another 1,700 messages.

This morning, I recognized that a large part of my messages come from notifications. I get Facebook, Twitter, BlogTalkRadio, Google Voice, Newsletters, Foursquare check-ins, YouTube updates, and much more. Unfortunately, I hardly ever read these notifications.

The issue is that what I fail to look in my email box, I risk overlooking something more important. This has happened far too many times lately.

Starting today, I am going to turn off those notifications. If I want to know what my friends on Facebook are writing, I'll check-in.

In turn, I hope to be more responsive to those messages that are actually important.

In closing, let me review. Step one is to turn off all notifications sent to my email account. Step two...I'll figure out step two when I'm done with step one.

So, if you're like me then let's begin by removing those notifications. However, let me ask, what should we simplify next?

Damond L. Nollan, M.B.A.

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